I recently started watching a new show called Girlboss. As a young female professional (in a world where there is in fact still a glass ceiling) I figured that it might provide some humorous inspiration, which it does. In the first episode of the show the main character states “adulthood is where dreams go to die. Grow up, get a job, become a drone, that’s it… I need to find a way of growing up without becoming a boring adult.” PREACH IT GIRL! I do too!!
Now I’m not trying to whine about my life, because I know that I am truly blessed. However, that’s not to say I don’t work my butt off. I am here to be honest. Adulting is hard. And growing up really does change your life.
At the beginning of my junior year of college my mom passed away. My mom had always been the only parental figure in my life. So once she passed I was left parentless. This really forced me to grow up quick. All life burdens fell on me, all financial responsibility was now on me. To be fair, by the time most kids are juniors in college they have established a decent amount of independence from their parents. However, it is safe to say that a large majority of them still rely on parental support for at least some of their bills.
Anyone who knows me well and has spent much time around me these past few weeks (or even months) can attest to the fact that I am struggling with finding balance in my life. Between finishing my degree, taking on a career that I will continue post-grad, and being completely independent from parental support, one could say I have a lot on my plate. Its like the song Stressed Out by Twenty One Pilots.
Like most working professionals spend the 9:00 – 5:00 hours of the day at work (that is when I am not in the classroom). Most weeks I have at least one evening meeting for work, same goes for school. By the time I run errands in town and make it home it’s usually after 7:30 and I still need to do homework, study for exams, eat a healthy dinner, maintain a clean house, AND spend quality time with my boyfriend. On the average day I am lucky to be in bed by 11:00. Just as the main character of Girlboss describes, some days I feel like I am just cog in the machine, a boring adult.
I keep telling myself that once I finish school I will have more free time. And I genuinely hope that is true. But I think the biggest struggle for me is finding the balance between both my professional life (work and school) and my personal life, because right now I feel like a boring adult. Hanging out with friends has gone from enjoyable, to another thing I have to fit into my schedule. I can’t remember the last time I indulged in a Netflix binge, or even made it through a whole episode for that matter. My boyfriend and I have been wanting to take to horses up in the canyon near our house for MONTHS, finally I put it on the calendar and said “this isn’t getting moved” because if I didn’t we may NEVER go.
Again, I am not trying to complain about my life. I am just making a point that, even as a young professional, a college kid even, adulating truly is HARD! The key is learning how to find a balance, and that is a skill I am still working on.
This blog goes out to all the college kids who work their a** off juggling work, school, friends, family, and general life things. It’s hard! Remember to take a step back, prioritize, give yourself a break, separate your work and your personal life, learn to say no when you need to, and remember to make time for fun. Don’t become a boring adult, and don’t let your dreams die.